What I thought I was doing by remarrying was going home, back into the warm hearth that is the family and all that American culture enshrines along with its reverence for the family. I thought I was moving back into that sacred circle, that inner sanctum of respectability that accepted place. People dont have to worry about you anymore. You are safe, you are home.
In actuality, though, remarrying isnt about going home. Its about going some place entirely new, almost as if youve stepped through a looking glass. Things appear normal, but there are all sorts of strange contortions to life, things that arent readily apparent on the surface. In the end, remarriage turned out to be quite different than I imagined indeed from what most of us would imagine and that is what this book is about.
After surviving divorce, Wendy Swallow had given up on love for good. A series of bad dates simply confirmed it -- she did not need a man. She could be happy on her own. Then, when she wasn't looking, Charlie appeared.
In a humorous, reflective voice, Swallow shares with us her honest, emotional journey of remarriage. Navigating the rubble of failed marriages the blame, the embarrassment, the disrupted parenting Wendy and Charlie aim to create a union unadulterated by the loss and pain of previous mistakes. But reality is often different than intention, and Swallow's memoir is poignant and engaging, as she traces the pitfalls and triumphs of remarriage.
Featured on NPRs Diane Rehm Show and in Readers Digest and other national magazines, Swallows remarriage memoir examines the current research and everyday expectations of remarrying couples. Statistics show that many women remarry for economic security and companionship. Yet the reality of a second marriage, especially those involving children, can be daunting. Through conversations with remarried friends and authorities on stepfamilies, she and her husband Charlie embark on a remarkable journey into a place neither of them expected.
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The Triumph of Love over Experience is absolutely terrific. Wish we could
give every member of the Stepfamily Association of America a copy.
Dr. Margorie Engle,
President and CEO of the Stepfamily Association
This is a fresh and personal account of two very special people determined to make their relationship work against the odds
People who are thinking about remarriage will relate to their self-doubts and stress and relish the joy their hard work delivered.
This fine memoir by a former Washington Post reporter examines the stresses involved in creating stepfamilies. Swallow, who examined her divorce in the well-received Breaking Apart, produces another refreshingly honest look at her own life, this time focused on her unexpected remarriage.
book critic for the Seattle Post-Intelligencer
Theirs is a love story with speed bumps, and Swallow tells it with grace, wit and insight.
Rocky Mountain News